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You may not realize it, but there are certain things a woman should ask a man to set the pace, boundaries, and direction of a relationship. Women, who don’t ask the right questions, always end up entangled in a relationship.
A woman, who gets carried away, usually finds that a man does what he wants, when he wants, without much consideration of his needs or desires.
But that’s because she never clarified or asked, so he thinks everything is fine and she’s happy, because she’s not saying otherwise; and he goes after her own desires. This would mean that men, who want to use women, end up doing so; and men who want to take women for granted end up doing it, etc…
That is why it is extremely important to ask the right questions from the beginning, so as not to fall into a vicious cycle in which a man uses you as a doormat. Also, the questions you ask help direct him to know exactly what you want and help a man give you what you want.
Here are the 25 questions every woman should ask a man:
1. What are your personal goals?- You MUST know what he wants to do outside of a relationship, because he’s going to want to do it. Most women get in the way of a man’s personal goals because they want all of her goals to involve her. Accept that not all of his goals involve you, as they were formed before you did… and some just won’t involve you at all.
2. How was your childhood?– Knowing about a man’s childhood is like being given a key to understand everything that is, because it will explain why he is the way he is. This is something every woman should know from top to bottom.
3. What are your insecurities? – These little demons will appear out of nowhere if you don’t ask and don’t get clarification. When they do arise they usually ruin and destroy everything good, so it’s something you MUST discuss and figure out early on, so you know how to deal with it or know it’s just insecurity when it arises.
4. What professional career interests you? – This is an address that every woman should take into account, because it could imply that he moves, or has to spend a lot of time at work, etc.
5. What do you expect from a relationship? – Not all the idea of a relationship is the same. It’s good to clear this up early on and find out what a relationship really is to him.
6. What do you want out of life? – This encompasses everything you hope to achieve in life, whether that includes your career, a family, financial success, etc… in essence, it’s all the major goals you have for yourself until you die.
7. What can’t you bear? – Imagine if you spent all your time doing everything he hates, because he never tells you? That’s how 99.9% of relationships are, and that’s why they fail, because women never really know what they’re doing wrong, and they never find out what their man really can’t stand. It’s good to know your limits here.
8. You want to have children? – Some couples never talk about it, so when one partner declares that they would like to have children, they are shocked and heartbroken when they realize their partner never did. If you want children, and even if you don’t, you should ask him if that’s something he’s looking forward to or not.
9. How were your past relationships? – A person’s past relationship can show you patterns in their personality. It’s also good to know, to find out if a guy hasn’t moved on yet, if he has baggage, if he’s the cheating type, etc., which isn’t something you want to find out later.
10 What attracts you to women? – A general question that goes beyond the superficial. Everyone has their unique idea of the ideal partner; it is good to know what is really ideal and attractive for a man in the first place.
eleven What expectations do you have of yourself? – A man’s expectations of himself will rub off on everyone else he meets, if they don’t live up to those expectations; but more importantly, a man’s expectations of himself can determine his reactions and actions towards many things.
12 What are your views on spirituality? – Some people care about religion, others don’t. However, it’s important to find out if your partner cares, where they stand on the matter, and if they can accept you into their life with the beliefs they hold.
13 What do you expect from a partner? – What does he want from you? What does he need? What things are the most important to him, from a woman? What kind of things is he looking for from his partner?
14 Describe your family and friends? – Who are they, what are they about, how does the family work, what kind of relationships are there, etc…? All of this shaped who he is today, and may shape his ideas about the type of relationship he wants. He knows his family and friends.
fifteen. What do you think about marriage and commitment? – We are coming to an era where people are equally juggling between marriages and dating. Some believe that it is better to go out and stay in a long-term relationship without marriage, because they believe that things are fine the way they are. Others believe that marriage is the way. Some men, on the other hand, only believe in short-term relationships. It’s good to know where you stand on the issue, so you can clarify where you stand.
sixteen. What is your sexual history? – It is good to know what the sexual history of the couple was, for obvious security reasons (STDs); but also to understand how your partner views sexuality and intimacy to begin with.
17 What role does a woman play in a relationship? – Find out what purpose he thinks you would fulfill in a relationship with him. For example, some men think that a woman should not work, do you think that should be her role?
18 What is your financial situation? – Regardless of whether you are financially independent or not, you should know this. Finances support a person’s way of life, so you should know his financial situation in general; because financial problems and even success can create a lot of stress or problems for a man.
19 What is your stance on intimacy and sex? – When do you think it is correct to start intimacy? What kind of fantasies or desires do you have in that area? That waits?
twenty What is loyalty to you? – Does he believe in monogamy? What is his idea of loyalty? What kind of loyalty does he expect?
twenty-one How do you define love? – Some men may not believe in it, others may think that it is the only way. Some may say it is conditional, others say it is unconditional. It’s good to know how a man defines love, because that sets the emotional rhythm of the relationship.
22 What are your worst life experiences? – Knowing where a man came from and how he got over it can show you where he plans to go in the future. Also, there could have been life-changing events for him, traumatic events, etc. which he should be aware of, because now they can affect him depending on the severity.
23 What are your successes? – What are your best experiences, what have you achieved? These are things that he has worked on and can show you where his interests lie, but also HOW he approaches things and how he wins.
24 What are your worst fears? – For some, it could be compromise; for others it could be bankruptcy. You need to know what kinds of things are holding him back or scaring him…as they can get in the way of everything if they arise or are activated. Remember these are their WORST fears.
25 What do you want to know about me? – Sometimes a man never asks things, because he doesn’t feel that the floor is open to ask. He let him know that he can ask him anything and he is open to his questions without judging or criticizing the things he is asking. This question is important to let a man know that he MAY know you and MAY know the things he wants, and there are definitely things he wants to know.