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Your brain works by asking questions
Your brain is continually active, weighing everything it sees and experiences to find what is important and needs attention, and what it can “erase.” If you are not consciously focusing on anything, your brain will slip into automatic mode and simply absorb and evaluate life based on what it is receiving through hearing and sight. It will collect a lot of random and useless things. You could be limiting not only your resources, but also your personal growth by allowing this.
The questions you ask reveal where your focus is.
You can quickly find out what you are focusing on by becoming aware of the questions you are asking. Shift your focus to purpose and you will automatically come up with a different set of questions and answers. Use this ability to choose empowering rather than disavowing questions. You have to do it on purpose.
Limiting questions keep you where you are
One of the most limiting questions you can ask when life is not going well is, “Why me?” or something similar. This sets up a whole series of questions and answers from the memories stored in your brain. You will find that all the negative things and situations that you have experienced in the past will come to mind. Your brain will always search for answers to the specific questions you ask. Your brain tries to legitimize your questions with the available stored data. The result will be that you will get answers like, “I don’t deserve any better”, “I always fail at this / get in trouble”, “I don’t have what it takes”. These questions provide answers from the PAST. There is nothing you can do about your past, so nothing changes or will change, except that you could fall into a depression.
Empowerment Questions Drive Responsibility, Initiative, and Growth
Empowerment questions take data from the present, consider your past experiences, but look to the FUTURE for new answers. You will come up with positive things you can take out of any situation, and you will also come up with ideas on how to take advantage of bad circumstances or apparent disadvantages to your growth and advantage. Ask things like, “What can I learn from this?” “How can I use this to make myself a better person?” “How can this help me?” “What can I do to change this?” Your brain will provide you with many answers and possibilities at all times.
Conclution
Your brain is the best tool you have to grow. Take charge of your thinking. You must be very aware of the questions your brain asks you, they reveal what you are focusing on. If the questions are daunting, change them consciously and you will begin to receive empowered answers. Your growth and personal development are directly related to the questions you are asking. Take responsibility for your own thoughts and change your life.