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The other day at a kitten party my friend told me that she doesn’t keep sweets and candies at home because she’s going to eat them all. The mother of the group practically replied, “how do you shoot the children then?”
A toy, candy, entertainment, money, if you’re wondering what’s wrong with bribing. After all, who isn’t motivated to receive a little incentive? Several parents seem to agree with the concept of “bribery” as they find it harmless as it sounds. Parents find that rewarding their children with toys/candy/gadgets can send an unspoken but powerful message to children, such as:
You can never behave without bribery
Good behavior is only for adults and not for children.
Everything has a price
With so much health awareness, limiting sugar intake is one of them. When foods like sweets, candies, chocolates are used as a reward, children assume that these are better and more valuable foods than other foods. Not only food, but also toys, and nowadays devices like tablets, iPods, etc.
When you as a parent give shards to children, your child gets the following message that “you have to pay me to do it”. Perhaps bribery with rewards could be short-term, like stopping tantrums or doing homework, but how far will this go and how long will you as a parent be rewarding with different types of bribes? Initially they are just candy and toys but little by little it grows into expensive junk like iPod/tablets etc. The more you shoot, the more you miss.
Rewarding children with various leftovers does not teach them responsibility and respect. These kinds of quick fixes only make you feel guilty for not teaching your kids the value of things. Children will never have an idea what parents had to fight to earn so much money until they became parents. It is a vicious chain that requires breaking and making children learn about their responsibilities and value what they have. When it comes to the children, it can take time to break through the entire bribery process; eventually you can get them to learn the good habit of taking responsibility without expectations. This will help to uproot a responsible nature and will be of great help in the future.