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Taylor had never anticipated that she would become a statistic in extramarital affairs. Married for only five years, independent, professionally successful, and in love with her partner, she found herself flirting with a colleague who worked in the same office as her. At first it was just a friendship, with lunches, emails, and texts when they weren’t together, all “strictly work.” Then the content of these conversations became more personal and intimate, and before she knew it, she began making excuses to see this colleague. When they weren’t together, she fantasized about being together, when the relationship turned from friendship to romance, Taylor was ready for it.
We all know someone like Taylor with direct experience of extramarital affairs, or we or our partner have had it. About 55% of all married women and 65% of all married men had one or more affairs while in a committed relationship. Wow! This is an impressive number of people, coming from different economic, social and educational backgrounds, ranging from teenagers to senior citizens.
How do we know we are at risk? There are many factors that contribute to having an affair, including emotional and physical dissatisfaction and boredom in the current relationship, leading to a lack of focus and enthusiasm; increased exposure to people we find attractive; laxer social attitudes about sex; easy access to the Internet, with its chat rooms and other social and romantic sites; a history of impulsive behaviors Certain occupations are more likely to create opportunities for adventures, as celebrities know. Gender is also a factor, as men tend to have more affairs than women, although women are catching up.
If you are having an affair, remember that keeping a secret from your partner will not help your relationship. On the other hand, opening a frank and direct dialogue with her, although very painful and difficult, can help both of you deal with your relationship problems, your feelings for each other, and which patch you both want to stick with, together or together. separately.
If your partner is having an affair, encourage him to talk to you about it. Since they are distraught, you may want to understand what happened and assess the value of your relationship. This way, you will be able to make an informed decision about how to proceed.
Although two-thirds of couples (in which one partner had an affair) do not survive the betrayal, the third that survives can sometimes do better than before the affair. The reason is that the affair forces couples to address problems rather than avoid them and therefore offers them the opportunity to address them. Affairs, painful as they are, are symptoms, not causes, of interpersonal problems. If you and your partner can identify the area or areas of conflict and problems, you may be able to grow from this experience and reach a deeper level of intimacy with each other.
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