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A bully is a person who hurts, scares, or bullies people who are smaller or weaker. The bully is intimidating and aggressive. Because bullies have low self-esteem and low confidence, they often look for a person who is weaker than they are.
Some people agree that bullies have very high self-esteem. I personally don’t think so. If a bully is a person who cannot handle aggression in a healthy way and is generally looking for victims, they definitely lack self-esteem. Bullies tend to appear strong and confident, but this is a mask to cover up their fears and inability to handle aggression.
According to the American Psychological Association, bullies are described as “impulsive, easily frustrated, domineering in personality, and having difficulty conforming to rules.” Bullying often starts early in life and if this behavior is not corrected, it will repeat itself.
People who are bullied are often shy and very passive, lacking the ability to stand up for themselves. Have feelings of helplessness and dependency. Therefore, these harassed people also lack self-esteem and confidence.
The main difference between a stalker and a victim is that the stalker will have a tendency to engage in criminal behavior later in life. The bullied, on the other hand, will be more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and depression. Bullying can be done in different ways: insulting, threading, spreading rumours, joking about your size, race, religion, physical abuse, etc.
How can we handle bullies? Here are some tips:
- The first step if you are a victim is to start building self-esteem. By setting strong boundaries and learning to stand up, you will stop bullies.
- Learn to be assertive and firm. Say: I’m not taking this… You’re trying to make me feel bad but it doesn’t work… and so on.
- Always make eye contact. Look directly at the harasser when you speak.
- Keep your voice strong and steady without yelling.
If you discover that you are the victim of stalking, do not ignore this fact. Remember that stalkers are attracted to passive people who lack self-confidence, you must take action and before you take action, be prepared. The best way to act is to develop self-esteem and confidence.
Learn to be assertive and write down your success. Writing down the times you have been successful in stopping a bully will build more confidence and make you feel good about yourself. In the meantime, while you work at it, try to avoid these people and places and be persistent. If you can’t deal with the problem, seek help.
If you think bullies just terrorize the schoolyard, think again. When they’re done bullying their classmates, they can grow up to be threatening co-workers, spouses, friends, and parents” – Dr. Phil.