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For many men, sex is a situation where you put a lot of pressure on yourself to not only perform well, but to perform LONGER. Lasting longer in bed is not a topic that should cause shame and ridicule; It is an issue that men have to address head on….
Big disclaimer here: I am not a sexual expert. However, I am a man who has seen the ups and downs of him in the bedroom. I have learned a few things when it comes to sex and I feel it is my duty to share them with all of you.
The first thing men have to do to last longer in bed is ENJOY sex. I cannot stress this enough. Sex is not a job. It shouldn’t be treated or thought of as such and definitely shouldn’t evoke the same kind of feelings that a dreaded job does. Think right now that you are going to enjoy having sex with your partner. This is where the battle begins and is usually lost. You see, many men feel so much pressure just to perform that they ultimately over stimulate their mind and that usually causes them to ejaculate prematurely. Well, that obviously won’t work well when you’re trying to last longer in bed.
Another trick to last longer in bed is to take your time. Fella’s, this isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon and you should treat it that way. Remember, women take longer to climax… some longer than others. Do this, commit to bringing your partner to at least one climax before orgasm. I promise you, this will pay huge dividends in lasting longer in bed and maybe lasting longer in the relationship…if there is one.
Finally, and perhaps most challenging, don’t be lazy when you have sex. Do you want to last longer in bed? Try to have sex in multiple positions. This will slow your mind and heart rate. You’ll be surprised how helpful this can be when you’re trying to last longer in bed. Commit to having sex in four different positions. I don’t care if you spend 45 seconds per position. If you do the math, 45 seconds in four positions with 15 seconds to change and kiss, you already have almost 4 full minutes and pure sexual bliss!
So here is the summary, lasting longer in bed is a mind game. You have to get it in your head that you enjoy sex and not stress yourself out like it’s a dreaded job. Take your time; this is a marathon, not a sprint. Make your partner climax before you do! Don’t be lazy!! Use multiple positions when you have sex and use changing positions to kiss and touch your partner.
I want to end this… Have a plan in mind developed beforehand. It is okay to think about how you are going to please your partner. Remember, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.