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If a man spends most of his life doing things for his mother and overlooks his own life as a result, it is unlikely that he himself will have a great life. He will be an individual with his own life to take, but that will be as far as he will go.
So instead of being the main character in your own story, known as your life, you will be just a minor character. His mother, on the other hand, will be the main protagonist of his story.
The center of your world
She will be your focus and doing what she wants will be your top priority. She will then look like an individual but act as if she is simply an extension of her mother.
Consequently, it may not matter what you are doing, since if your mother needs you, she could soon put you aside. She won’t have a remote for him, but she will still be able to control him from a distance.
His own life
When it comes to what you do for a living, you may have a very basic job or calling. Either way, it is unlikely that you will be able to direct much energy into this area of your life.
The reason for this, of course, is that much of his life force will go to his mother. For him to have a deeply rewarding career and advancement in this area of his life, he will need to focus less on his mother.
Head down
However, since his mother is the center of his world and he acts as an extension of her, there is a chance that he will be comfortable staying in the background, so to speak. Without being aware of it, he will do what he can to make sure he doesn’t stand out.
This will mean that he will rarely, if ever, express his needs and will do what he can to hide around his mother. But, even if she’s not close to her mother, she might still have a tendency to fade into the background.
hidden in plain sight
When this happens, physically here he will be there, but that will be all, since his appearance will not be a reflection of his true self. So, she will not express her needs and feelings; he will simply play a role that will allow him to please his mother or others.
His mother most likely doesn’t even realize that he is simply playing a role, as she can only hope that he is there for her and takes care of her needs. It may not even occur to her that he is separate from her, and that she sees him as her possession.
Internal conflict
This probably illustrates that while a part of him will want to express who he is, however weak that part is, another part of him, an even stronger part, will not want him to. This part will make sure he doesn’t see the light of day.
The result of this is that you will not be able to fully access your power and create a life that reflects who you truly are. Therefore, she will not live in a real prison but will live in an invisible prison.
deeply uncomfortable
If you were to think about freely expressing who you are and what it would be like to live a life that reflected who you are, you could end up full of anxiety and fear. Instead of doing the right thing and living the right way, it will be like you are doing the wrong thing and living the wrong way.
What this probably shows is that hiding who you are and staying small is considered the only way to survive. Unless this changes, it will continue to just survive; it will not be possible for him to prosper.
What is happening?
Looking back at what likely happened during his early years and the impact this had on him, it will likely shed light on why this is so. At this stage of his life, his mother probably used him to satisfy some of his unmet adult and childhood needs.
This would have prevented him from going through each stage of development and he would have come to believe that he can only survive by hiding. The reason is that if he expressed his needs or feelings, his true self, it’s likely that he was punished, disapproved of, and/or abandoned, and this probably happened anyway.
The foundations were laid
Now that he’s an adult, he doesn’t need to hide who he is or stay small in order to survive. However, because his emotional self is stuck at this stage of his life, because he didn’t receive what he needed to be able to grow and develop and be traumatized, he doesn’t know this to the core of his being.
For your life to truly change, your emotional self must grow. In addition, he will have to question what he believes and have his inner experience validated, since most likely he has had a life in which both himself and others have invalidated his inner experience.
Awareness
If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.