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Part One:
I see a lot of people in this group talking about ethics in the counseling room, what should I do with my clients (patients) what should I not do? Can I do this or can I do that? What if this happens and what happens if that happens? I want to tell you that most of this is pure aesthetics, mindless setups and, at best, nonsensical. There is only one thing that matters in a counseling room is the relationship between you and your client. Do you release the depressed from a binding past, allow the anxious to look to a positive and realistic future without worry or worry, calm the minds of those who feel the futility of life, and replace it with an interior? sense of purpose. Do you see the repair repaired and after several sessions you smile and say, I don’t need you anymore? Do you feel the frustration, the satisfaction, the joy of transforming the crisis into one of peace and joy?
As counselors, we are someone else’s agents of change: we are advocates of psychological research that works, we are unsung heroes that no one talks about. We are paid by the hour, we only get what we deserve for the service we provide. Our value is in the knowledge that we make a living helping others survive a mental hell that normals only feel in the peripheral vision of sadness or ecstatic wonder. Outside of our profession are the rule-makers, the judges, the authoritarians, they run our professional associations, our societies, who consider telling us what is ethical, correct, acceptable and that we must listen and obey. Very few of these so-called purveyors of justice have ever treated a client, ever faced the drama of tears, despair and anger for the world that our clients suffer every day. I want to offer them a cup of tea, and what, I want to give them a hug, and what, I want to meet them for coffee, and what, I want to be friends for years, and what – whose business is it besides the therapist and their clients .
Clients tell us what they want and can accept; we don’t need others to interpret that or judge our actions; We see the customer flourish and improve, not the soulless association or societies that claim privilege over us in our actions and thoughts. We only have one rule: do not harm our clients, as we would like them not to harm ourselves, everything else is pure moralistic nonsense.
The second part:
The above statement was in response to hundreds of new and existing counselors constantly asking what they could and couldn’t do with a client in therapy. In previous articles, I described my objections to supervisors, accreditation, licensing, and statute as the money-making control of a helper profession that is constantly micromanaged by blind who cannot see. So there is no need to repeat myself here. However, to give a more general outline of my belief in the above statement, I think I should rate my post.
First, I have treated patients (clients) for over 35 years in a professional manner and long before that as a person with diverse employment backgrounds. Like most of my generation, I left school at 15 and went to work, started paying taxes, insurance, and my mother (food). After a while I did my military service, I got married young, fathered children, bought houses, got into debt, started businesses, got divorced, stayed single for more than 30 years, was educated at the University, remarried, had more children and I worked every day of my life. not for a salary in most cases, but as a self-employed entrepreneur in whatever form he took. In other words, I made money through my own efforts and I never trusted anyone else to support me. It is not always difficult, it is not always easy, but many life lessons are learned. I was not always good, but far from being bad, I made mistakes but did what I could to fix things. I saved myself when I needed it and gave generously when I could. I am a man of science, not religion, I do not want faith in superstition, I want certainty in facts. I am independent in spirit and thought: I go my own way when I can without hurting others. My purpose is to be the best therapist I can to support my family and my lifestyle (modest in most cases).
I like to write when I have time, 65 works and three published books. I enjoy photography and my only quirk is that I own a good quality professional camera. Second, I am an independent thinker and I refuse to be silenced and harassed by professional organizations trying to micromanage a people-oriented company. I will listen to my peers and take what feels right to me: I will ignore and rebel against supervision, accreditation, licensing and other absurd forms of control with only money in their path of evil. Third, I am 64 years old and society says that in another year I have more than enough requirements, they will give me a minimum pension eroded by the politics in the UK of consecutive conservative governments that betrayed the notion of social status, by a labor party that now betrays the government. democratic principles of the people by not supporting the Brexit referendum. A country that used to lead a world reduced to a third world state of chaos. Like most British citizens they no longer take pride in telling people that this is where I come from. In this state, I can never truly retire and must continue working until I die or become unable to use my mind any longer. Fourth, I think everyone should do their bit for the planet and others, I’m a vegetarian and I’m going vegan (I never get it), I never smoke, I only drink Ireland’s stout every once in a while, I choose have just a few friends and I am an advocate for wildlife.
While I can’t save everyone, we all choose our own way to contribute to society and humanity, mine is to be the best therapist I can be. The second part of this article was intended to justify my declaration of the freedom of the right to be the therapist that I want to be guided by my humanity and care, to follow the science of the mind and psychological research that has shown long-term benefits for the patient . individual patient, couples or groups seeking the assistance of a professional. I should point out here: professional does not mean the micromanaged subordinate of societies and organizations that seek to control therapists or counselors who call themselves licensed, accredited, or collegiate (paying for scraps of paper that say they have the right to do something everyone they have a right to do – help others.) A good education in psychology (general terms) and the study of eclectic types of therapies that should become useful practical practices for day-to-day life.
Bottom line: Be the best therapist you can, trust yourself, trust that your clients (patients) will be strong and independent.