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Losing the love of your life is a traumatic experience, even worse if the Bible teaches that you cannot remarry. Let me assure you that no matter what I say in this teaching, you will do what you want to do. And even if what I say is somewhat supported by Scripture, you will find teachers out there who will reassure you that if you were not an adulterer, you can remarry. This article is simply written for people who honestly want to know the truth and who love Jesus and his words more than his own wishes.
The first scripture I want to share with you says:
Romans 7:2-3 (New King James Version)
2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3 Therefore, if she marries another man while her husband is alive, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is released from that law, so that she is not an adulteress, even though she has married another man.
This was a scripture written by the Apostle Paul. It is quite clear in its meaning. It means that if a lady marries a man, it is until death that they make a pact. She can divorce him before he dies, but she must remain single as long as her husband lives. If she remarries, she is called an adulteress.
Now, I don’t know the argument that popular teachers have for this writing. But most of us said death do us part, in sickness and in health and so on in our wedding vows. On the one hand, before a priest, we make a vow before our love to death separates us and now things have gone wrong and we are divorcing and saying that we want death to separate us from the agreement.
Paul says, “No, my friend, he stays.”
Now I don’t know which party you’re reading this from. I don’t know if you are the one who was all over the separation and divorce or you are the partner who keeps crying because your partner left and wants to divorce you and you are reading about it.
I was the tear buddy for years my wife left me. I was a broken man when she left and while she was with me I was a codependent husband. I wasn’t in a good state when I got married and I just can’t blame my wife for walking away when my mental illness started creeping into my life.
When someone leaves you, you think well if I can be happy again and give it another try, maybe I could give wife number two a better try. That was how I felt. I even got engaged at one point and my fiancée told me that Jesus told her not to marry me. This message undoubtedly came from Jesus and we broke apart in tears, both loving each other but knowing we couldn’t be.
Let’s look at another verse.
Mark 10:11-12 (New King James Version)
11 Then he said to them, Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if the woman repudiates her husband and marries another, he commits adultery.
This is pretty clear here and it’s said twice so we don’t miss it.
1. If a man divorces his wife, he cannot remarry.
2. If a woman divorces her husband, she cannot remarry.
Now there are a number of scriptures on this debate. I am not going to quote the one from Mateo that says that divorce is allowed. This verse is quite clear. If you divorce your partner and remarry you are committing adultery. Both the person who leaves another person and the person who has stayed cannot remarry.
Both.
There is only one marriage in the kingdom of God.
Now, what about all those people who have remarried without reading this article?
They are in adultery.
Millions of them.
Now that doesn’t mean the Lord God can’t forgive them for their mistake, but we’re not talking about them, we’re talking about you.
You have not yet remarried and therefore you have not committed adultery. So you still have a chance. This is very sobering news for some. In fact, not many can handle it. In my experience with divorced people that I have met and shared these scriptures with, I have to say that none of them have accepted this as true. I don’t expect many of you to either.
I am writing this for the person who is willing to seek the Lord for the truth. I appeal to the brokenhearted people of the world to look at what Jesus and Paul said.
I am not making an elegant argument here. I’m not even very happy to bring this teaching, but I know I have to write it because I read my last article and the tone was not right.
God says in Malachi that he hates divorce. In the scriptures, Jesus says that only for adultery can we get divorced and most of the divorces that are done these days are not for those reasons. Under God’s law, people who get divorced for any reason other than adultery have not actually been divorced from God and are therefore still married to their first partner when they remarry.
Jesus warned that teachers will come under stricter judgment. There are so many pastors who not only agree to divorce, but also marry people who have divorced without even knowing the reasons for the first divorce.
It’s kind of sad guys.
How can I cope with being single for the rest of my life?
I struggled with this for a while until I realized that the writing is true. I first came to this teaching of scripture when I read my Bible one night and read the passage in Matthew and the Holy Spirit told me that I could not remarry.
In him was undoubtedly the Holy Spirit.
Having a faith that allows me to talk to Jesus, I asked Jesus, is this true?
“Yes, Mateo, you can’t remarry, Jesus told me.”
I was devastated. He was only 35 and still young enough to date. In fact, since I came to the truth of this teaching and agreed to be single for the rest of my life, four ladies who came to know me proposed to me. Three online and one in person.
Each of the four tried to show me that I was wrong. One was quite insistent on sending me a teaching with the opposite point of view to mine and making me promise to read it. I read it and was not convinced that I was wrong.
How can you argue when the Holy Spirit and Jesus have told you something? And the scriptures back up what you’ve been told.
It’s hard to accept being single for the rest of your life. It will take real courage to seek the Lord for confirmation of this teaching. But I structured the headline so you were reading. It was you he wanted to talk to.
Not with harsh words of condemnation to make you feel bad or guilty about your impending divorce. But to show you a possible future that you may not have considered before today.
Now, some people after a marriage breaks up decide they will never marry again. This is fine for them, but this article is not for them and many of them wouldn’t even be reading it.
This is for you.
Let me ask you a question?
How many times do you think we have deceived God by serving the desires of our flesh? How many times have we been adulterers of God. But He does not divorce us, he loves us and forgives us. Many of us have broken half of the ten commandments but still feel God’s presence in church worship. However, he still hasn’t given us a divorce certificate.
Why should a couple who has been unfaithful get divorced? Surely they can see a counselor? Sure they can be forgiven.
I tell you friends, divorce is very destructive. If you get the chance, repair your marriage. God wants to heal the brokenhearted and restore health to the sick and open blind eyes. He never wants a divorce.
People really underestimate the healing power of God. If you are the one who is gone with all my heart, I call on you, pray and seek the Lord to make his marriage work and do the hard work to make it work.
If you’re the only one left behind, take solace in the fact that Jesus knows what it’s like to have those closest to him abandon him when the going gets tough. But Jesus did not leave the apostles behind him. He came back and gave them another 40 days of pep talks. So your partner has left you, take the opportunity to get closer to Jesus Christ.
Now I have some wonderful Christian women who are friends. I have two that are very dear to me on the Internet and about five that go to my church. Three of those in the church are married women whose partners approve of me and two are beautiful single women that God has blessed me with. I love the hugs I get each week when I go to church and the really meaningful pats on my back when I’ve been crying.
It is not easy as a man to conquer lust. But you can conquer it as I have done in my life. The blood of Jesus does not make anything impossible.
I pray that you can at least do some research on other writers who side with my interpretation of Scripture. I pray that you find peace in your heart to remain single and find forgiveness for your ex.
God bless you